Giving a wedding gift goes way beyond tradition as it is a way to celebrate the couple and show your thoughtfulness! But knowing when to send a wedding gift, what’s appropriate, and what to do if you can’t attend can sometimes be confusing. Follow these modern wedding etiquette guidelines to make sure your gift is thoughtful, timely, and well-received.
1. Send Wedding Gifts on Time
Timing is key. Ideally, wedding gifts should arrive before the wedding or shortly after. Sending your gift on time shows respect and allows the couple to enjoy their present without stress.
- Before the wedding: 2–3 months in advance is ideal, especially if shipping is involved.
- After the wedding: Within a month is still considered polite.
Hot tip: If the couple has a wedding website or registry, double-check shipping deadlines and preferred vendors.
2. Choose Appropriate Wedding Gifts
Wedding gifts should reflect the couple’s taste and lifestyle. Options include:
- Registry items: These are the safest and most helpful gifts.
- Personalized or meaningful gifts: Custom decor, monogrammed linens, or keepsakes.
- Experiential gifts: Cooking classes, honeymoon excursions, or charitable donations.
Avoid: Gifts that are overly expensive, quirky, or too personal (like clothing that may not fit). Balance thoughtfulness with practicality.
3. Gifts If You Can’t Attend the Wedding
Even if you can’t make it to the ceremony or reception, etiquette suggests sending a gift anyway. It’s a way to celebrate the couple from afar.
- Include a personal note explaining that you’re sorry to miss the celebration.
- Use reliable shipping services or online registries that deliver directly to the couple.
4. How Much to Spend on a Wedding Gift
Gift value depends on your relationship with the couple:
- Close family or best friends: Higher-end or meaningful gifts.
- Friends, coworkers, or acquaintances: Thoughtful but modest gifts.
- Group gifts: Splitting the cost for a larger item is a modern and practical solution.
Pro tip: Check if the couple has a cash or honeymoon fund option, which is becoming more popular.
5. Don’t Forget a Note
Etiquette doesn’t end with giving. The couple will likely send thank-you notes, but you should also follow up if you gave a gift in advance or contributed to a group gift. Personalized notes add a thoughtful touch.
6. Modern Wedding Gift Trends
- Cash or gift cards are widely accepted, especially for honeymoon funds.
- Experiences are increasingly popular for couples who already have household items.
- Charitable donations made in honor of the couple are meaningful and appreciated.
Whether you attend the wedding or not, choosing appropriate gifts and sending them at the right time shows your respect for the couple and your attention to tradition, with a modern twist!
