When we think of a beautifully set table, the mind often drifts to the shimmering silver, the crispness of the linens, and perhaps that charming finishing touch: the napkin ring. While they are a staple in many American homes today, the history of the napkin ring is rooted more in practicality than one might expect.
A Practical Past: The History of the Napkin Ring
While many believe napkin rings have always been a mark of formality, they actually originated in the 1800s as a practical household solution in informal dining. Historically, they were used to distinguish individual family members’ napkins between launderings. Because linens were not washed after every single use in a private home, each person had their own ring to identify which napkin belonged to them.
Because of this "utilitarian" beginning, traditional etiquette still holds that napkin rings do not belong on a truly formal dining table. They remain a largely American custom and are rarely seen in formal settings in Great Britain and much of Europe,.
When to Reach for the Ring
In modern hosting, napkin rings have evolved into a decorative tool. Today, host reach for them when a gathering feels festive. They are perfect for:
- A Seated Lunch: Where you want the table to feel "done" but not stiff.
- A Relaxed Dinner Party: To add a layer of texture and warmth.
- Holiday Tables: Where decor and personality matter more than strict traditional formality.
Remember: Napkin rings are strictly for cloth napkins. They should never be paired with paper, as the cloth itself is what signals an elevated, thoughtful moment.
A Few Practical Tips
Before you set your next table, keep these small details in mind:
- Avoid the Clutter: Once guests sit down and remove the ring (which for guests is placed on the upper left above the main dining plate on the table), it can create a bit of clutter on the table. Ensure there is enough space at each setting for the ring to rest neatly.
- Maintenance: Napkin rings generally don't love being laundered alongside your linens. Treat them as jewelry for your table- delicate and separate.
If you enjoyed this deep dive into table accessories and napkin ring etiquette, you might also be interested in mastering the basics. Read "Top 10 Table Manners-Are you using all 10?" for more ways to perfect your next hosted moment.
